Having growing older & older, i believe that we cannot keep all the friends in our life. Each year as i grow, i tend to lose some friends. It could be becoz the lack of contact, it could be becoz the difference pace in life. But at the same time, i make new friends. Colleagues turns Friends are very interesting. Some are real fun, some make you mad at times, some make you cry.
Talking to my BFF & buddy that day, i concluded that gers in general need 3 type of friends.
1. To bitch with
2. To talk heart-to-heart
3. Enjoy & Share the common interest.
To bitch withSometimes i just want to bitch about someone. It may not mean harm but it is becoz i need that de-stress. I find bitching is a good de-stress method and u need the right ppl to be around. I hate hearing some saint trying to tell me some holy things when i bitch about another. However, it is not easy to find such a person. Most ppl will protect themselves and prefer not to bitch. Some ppl are so image-concern that they are worry to "spoil their image".
To talk heart-to-heartPeople who will really be happy for your happiness, and feel sad when u do so. Sharing happiness and boasting is only a line difference. And sometimes you may wanna share, but to another you are boasting. The other may feel bad or may make you feel bad after that. Thus, do only share with ppl who will really be happy for you. And these ppl are the one who will also really share your sorrows.
Enjoy & Share the common interestI love japanese drama, makeup, dolling up, enjoying good food, bowling, swimming, japanese anime, sing japanese song, shopping, mani/pedi etc etc. However, not all friends may share the same interest as me. Apart from finding one who have the same interest as you, both of you interest level must be on par. One high & one low may result in conflict.
What do you guys think? Which type of friend of mine are you? =D