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That day i was randomly reading some blog and i come across a letter that a girl wrote to a blogger regarding her love problems. The content go generally like this.

Basically, everytime my friends have a party or a movie outing, I always invite my BF to come along. He is my partner and I like having him with me.

But yesterday, I got into an argument with him because one of his friends (female) whom I haven't met yet, invited him to her birthday BBQ. I asked if I could come along and he said no because I wasn't invited.

This is not the first time something like this has happened. I have tried talking to him about this matter... but no change! Everytime he has an outing or gathering, he never invites me to join him... and it's not like it's a boy's night out kinda thing.

I am upset because when he got the invite, he didn't think to ask her if he could bring his girlfriend. We have been together for 1 year now. It's not as if I am just a new friend so his friend does know that he has a girlfriend yet she didn't have the courtesy to invite me as well???

Am i over reacting?

My bf & i are serious opposite in this. He is the type who always ask me along when his friends/colleagues etc ask him out/invite him to a party etc. Whereas for me, i seriously do not enjoy doing it. I dunno why he does so, pershaps he is like this like this ger who like the company of his/her partner. But as for me, i have my reasons.

1. I don't live my life around a man
I believe lovey-dovey crazy time is only during the 1st few months. We each have our own life to lead and i don't want to be involve too much in his life or too much involvement from him in my life. i believe that we need to have our own time, meet up with our friends and do the catching up, w/o ppl who don't blend in.

2. Doesn't it just make things awkward?
I kinda dislike the idea when during a gathering, my guy friend bring his gf, or ger friend bring her bf. Don't you think it is kinda irritating when you have to be careful talking to ur guy friend becoz his gf is ard, or can't really talk to your ger friend about personal things becoz she is linking arms with a guy? I think it is fine to attend parties together as a couple. But i don't like the "tagging along to outing/gathering" kind of feeling.

Be fair, there are some exceptional cases that i can accept my friend bring his/her partner along.
a. he/she wanna introduce to us
b. an announcement of marriage
c. we belong to the same clique.
d. your partner is invited!! e.g. parties!!
e. everyone is bring their the-other-half along.

Strictly speaking, i have only bring my bf to meet my friends 3 times?

1. Boss (Yan Hao)'s birthday party. Yan Hao invited him. But at the end, i realise that it was not right. I find the guys don't talk to me like the way they used too.
2. With the gers @ some pub. In fact, i was drinking with the gers, and he came to pick me for a movie, so he came in to say hello while the gers get introduced to him.
3. Our mutual friend's birthday. KTV. So maybe this is not counted?

Of coz, i'm not being fair, coz there may be a chance that the guy in that letter have something to hide. But if the guy happen to be like me, then i suggest the ger to start meeting up her friends alone, w/o the presence of her bf. She will realise that what she has been missing.